Cycle 5/12 of #108 days of happiness.
To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance” Oscar Wilde
“Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.” Lucille Ball
I find that amazing but that is true.
The time we suffer most pain is not when someone else is saying unkind words to us. The most prolonged pain we have is when WE are cruel to ourselves and when WE say nasty or judgmental words to ourselves.
Do you know what I mean?
I am sure that you know exactly what I am talking about.
In my family, it was normal to say mean things about ourselves, it was considered being humble.
Things like: I am very stupid in …
I don’t know how to do this basic…
I look so old and fat because…
When you made yourself small and unimportant that was generous.
But it is not.
Thank Goddessa, it is changing, because we are starting to learn that some things we got from our family lines are not healthy gifts, and we can take that program out.
We learn to become aware.
Now, my niece is going to say: “don’t say that, you are great”.
That is evolution.
You don’t have to be stuck with that. you can change it.
The biggest challenge is to be the one catching the negative words about Yourself in mid-air and transforming them.
This is the beginning of mastering self-love, and let me remind you that it is lifelong learning.
Sometimes when we hear “You need to love yourself” or “She doesn’t love herself”, we don’t know what it really means.
So I was thinking about that. I want less pain and more joy too. My self-critic is sometimes cruel and my self-blame is not any better. What does it mean to LOVE MY SELF?
You can listen here to the podcast below
And let me know what you think.
How do you do self-love?
What helped you be more loving?
Self-love is the source of all our other loves. Pierre Corneille